This is the reason why you’re afraid of approaching women…

Posted on 17. Jul, 2011 by admin in Dating Tips For Men

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This is the reason why you’re afraid of approaching women…

I know that there are many guy out there who get approach anxiety and jitters when it comes to approaching a woman for the first time.

I must admit, that after being in a long term relationship and out of the dating game for a while, I also get rusty and lose the touch at times.

So I have taken the liberty to study this topic in detail and come to the following conclusion.

Guys are afraid to approach women, because they are coming from an inherent mindset of “need” and the OUTCOME of the encounter makes or breaks what will happen next. This “need” is further broken down into:

1. The need to be accepted by her
2. The need to not undergo the feeling of rejection
3. The need to not feel embarrassed and lose face
4. The need to not have the ego damaged

So that’s why when a guy approaches a woman for the first time, it’s actually pretty nerve racking as they are actively putting their internal needs up to the evaluation and judgment of the women they are approaching.

Now what’s worse is that the evaluation process is not only unfair for the guy, it puts them at a SEVERE disadvantage.

The approach scenario puts the woman in the position of power, where SHE is the one that chooses and decides the outcome of the situation. Her judgment is not based on whether or not this man can actually satisfy her as a sexual partner or long term mate, but rather the way he appears and comes across at the time of the approach.

Now why does this suck?

Even gorgeous Hollywood celebrities and extremely sexy women look like shit sometimes if they dress wrong or don’t have make up.

Now these are 10/10 gorgeous babes and they have their off days… let alone the average male.

So having a woman judge you based on probably 10 seconds of meeting you and then deciding whether or not to give you her personal contact information is not only dangerous to a woman, it’s also a bit scary and intimidating for them.

Think about this, this is what’s going through her mind “ok, so this guy I don’t really know who I just met for 10 seconds wants me to go out with him alone and wants my number…”

Does that sound like a good deal to you? Even as a man that doesn’t sound like a good option…

That’s why approaching women from this mindset and mentality puts you at a severe disadvantage and really sets you up to fail.

So what’s the best way to approach?

The best way to approach is not come from the mindset of being needy and being dependant on the outcome.

Instead of placing the emphasis on HER, make the approach all about you.

That’s probably why when guys approach women for fun and for a joke, they have no qualms about it. They don’t expect to get the girls number and they don’t really care too much about the outcome. So the interaction is 100% natural, and often much more smoother than a woman they WANT, because they simply don’t give a damn.

They don’t care about the outcome so there’s no pressure in approaching.

No pressure = no approach anxiety = heaps of approaching fun = heaps of approaching success

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